[ 14 / 8 / 2004 ]:
In Berkeley, the change from spring to autumn comes early, with the August mists rolling up and down the hills. Autumn is my favorite time of year, and its coming leaves me feeling love for the touch of the brisk breeze, the sweet notes of Andrew Bird's violin, Celtic music, harvest festivals, and roaring fire and warm company. I hope I shall get to enjoy at least some of this. At any case, this time of year is always beautiful.

It feels like the start of a new life to me, as perhaps all days should be. Yet it also feels timeless, as indeed things are. It makes me feel quite Pagan, though I rarely use the word, longing for and loving the esoteric that we're immersed in. Wind of Autumn, carry me away! Give me the Courage to face the unknown! Let me remember this feeling

Yet at the same time that I welcome the unknown, things have happened that make me wonder at how I should walk through life...both literally and figuratively speaking. I suppose the straw that broke the camel's back came yesterday. I was walking down one of the multi-use trails (service vehicles, skateboards, bicycles, cars, motorcycles and...am I forgetting something? Oh yeah, I think pedestrians might be allowed to walk there too). At the end of the path, one of the service vehicles was there, picking up trash from the various trash cans. It was a small trail, barely big enough for the vehicle and trailer alone, and the next trash can was on my side of the path. Trying to be polite, I get off the path so that they can do their job -- as I know when I'm working I dislike when people get between me and what I'm trying to work on. On the other hand, I don't particularly want to wait there for the minutes it will take to do the trash, plus I don't want to give the workers the impression that they're inconveniencing me. I'd consider this rude, and at the very least, I try to be polite. So I walk through the garden areas off to the side of the path, being careful not to step on the plants. From most people I talk to, this sort of social submissiveness, or politeness, however you want to view it, is pretty unhealthy. Nonetheless I don't know what my alternatives are. I don't particularly want to fight a battle with every step, though I wonder if that's the way things are heading. But I'm fine jumping amongst the plants with a thirty pound backpack on my back ... just part of being me, I suppose. But then one of the workers said, ``That doesn't help the plants.'' So as usual, I try to be nice and am criticized for it! I hated myself most of the day, and its already leaking into my weekend. I should have had a little dialog with him, about what I should do in such situations...I don't know. Hopefully I'll have time to meditate on it in earnest soon.

Its supposed to be a secret, but since no one reads my flimsy excuse for a 'blog (or at least no one ever writes me to comment on it! I'll promise to put your comments up, even if they consist of "Youranickynastystupidhead", but no automation unless someone requests it) I'm writing a book consisting of my views on stuff that people don't talk about that frustrates the hell out of me. Maybe I can get some good feedback, or at least can say ``Its documented here'' instead of having to explain myself from scratch every time. There's a (hopefully frequently updated) preview here.

[ 4 / 9 / 2004 ]:
Lots of stuff...for one, my log is no longer online! I lost my EECS account. So much for college encouraging free expression!

I saw a UFO today. Not normally someone to either hallucinate (in the ``conventional'' sense of the word, anyway) so it was pretty strange. It could have been a very badly behaving baloon (or baloons) for all I know, but it seems someone unlikely, in my mind anyway. I'm not saying it was an alien spacecraft -- only that it was Unidentified (at least by me), Flying (or at least moving across the sky) and an Object, in the grossest sense of the word anyway. I was on UC Berkeley's campus, relaxing on a lawn and facing South. I saw this strange shape move across the sky to the left (the East). It was orange and red and black and gray, though it was around sunset (7p) so its hard to tell how much the sun's light affected my perception of color. I don't know how big a second or arc-second is in the sky, but it was probably about the (perceived) size of a 747 flying out of Oakland airport. It kept changing shape, from a pterodactyl or hang-glider type shape to a saucer with a dome shape, and back. It was moving much slower than a plane its size would move. Eventually it stopped and stood still and I watched it for some time. It grew smaller, becoming a roughly round dot, and more brilliantly magenta in color. The it started moving right (West again) until it disappeared all together. It seemed very hard to look at.

[ 15 / 9 / 2004 ]:
Weirdiosity. As usual.

I might get a snake soon. Not just a little one either, but a boa constricter, nonetheless. His name is Lie-Lu. I went out on a ... date? ... frequent readers know I hate that term. But then again, I don't have any frequent readers, AFAIK. But after e-mailing a girl named [named omitted] for a couple of weeks, we met up in San Francisco for the 9/11 festival. I really don't want this to sound like a teenage girl's diary, so I won't provide details (sorry, gossip-mongers). But we hit it off. She has two boa constricters, and wants to get rid of the ``little'' one, so Lilly might get a scaly companion.

[ 8 / 10 / 2004 ]:
I haven't written in awhile, so I suppose I shouldn't let this so-called 'blog drop completely into oblivion. Though that's perhaps where we're all heading.

I did end up getting Lei-Lu who is now sitting here next to me in his cage. Lilly was not at all a fan. As usual with CL dates, Lei-Lu's owner didn't really find me interesting (Who does? Even I have my doubts). So yeah. Autumn...the crisp weather makes me want to find someone to share my favorite season with. More pipe dreams, I suppose...

Lilly was so afraid of the snake when I first brought him home. She thought I had some kind of monster with me. Poor girl!

[ 9 / 10 / 2004 ]:
Mood: Angry!

Arrggh! So this is where my time goes! I wait in the post office line to mail some packages -- one for my brother's birthday (admittedly late... stress.stress.obligation.obligation....) and one of CDs my mom gave me....the sort of self-help talking, calm, everything will be okay messages to reassure those who really would rather stay at home all day than deal with the horrors of the world. Of course, the close post office (that has boxes) isn't open on Saturday. So I go to the main branch. They don't have boxes, and its half an hour until close, so I grab two express envelopes. Wait in line...la la la... Get to the front of the line and say ``You don't have any labels out. Can I have some?''

``Okay, fill these out and come back.''

I used my sharpie (argh! brand names are horrible!) to fill out these labels, as, again, I was expecting to write on boxes. Wait in line....la la la... Get to the front of the line again:

``You didn't fill these out in regular pen, you have to go back to do it again.''

Go back to the end of the line. Do this again. After a few minutes an unknown guy says, ``You know, you can go up and give them the packages. You don't have to wait in line again.''

$36. Again, these weren't supposed to be express...that's just how it wroks, I guess.

So I go to get something to eat at Laval's. I really want my pineapple and jalapeno pizza (sorry for the lack of ~ over the 'n'). I'm second in line. Or so I thought. Soon, a line starts forming orthogonal to this one, so I wait for about ten people until I'm up to order. I order and wait. After a long time (the Cal vs. USC game is on, so people were being loud, and ordering stuff, and what not, so it took awhile) they call a jalapeno and pepperoni pizza. I ask if this is mine. The store manager says, but of course not to me, ``You got the order wrong.''

Someone else: ``Do you like pepperoni?''

The manager: ``Of course not, he's a vegeterian.'' This is obviously because I look so much like a faggot and a Bezerkeley wimp that likes to whine pointless about everything. They offered to make me another pizza or refund my money, but I wouldn't have it. No lunch for me today.

This reminds of some of my old angry.html page. So I'll put that back up, via included link.

Well, back to work. No lunch for me today. If I'm lucky, dinner. But the ISO wants me to work at...some event or another. Stress.stress.obligation.obligation....

[ 5 / 11 / 2004 ]:
The Hole Truth: an Analogy of life, work, and all that:

So you apply for this job called ``Excavating the Psychic Subconcious of the Human Soul'' and are ecstatic to learn that you got accepted. This is exactly what you always wanted to do. You show up for your first day of work very excited, and your new boss tells you, ``Okay. Your first job is to dig a hole a thousand meters long, a thousand meters wide, and a thousand meters deep. Make sure you get each of the measurements accurate to within a millimeter and all the walls need to be at right angles within an arcsecond.'' After standing perplexed for a moment, you try to get back some of your enthusiasm. ``Okay,'' you think, ``I have some ideas on how to do this. Its not exactly what I thought I'd be doing when I heard the title, but its all part of life's adventure, right?''

You ask your boss, hoping to show him that you got gumption, ``So where's my shovel?'' He holds up a tea spoon. Then you proceed to argue for hours and how a teaspoon is or is not a shovel:

``That's not a shovel!'' you say.

``Sure it is,'' he says.

``Its a teaspoon!'' you say.

``Same thing,'' he says.

``A shovel and a teaspon are completely different,'' you say, ``A shovel is much bigger, for one.''

``They're both used to move loose material around. Besides,'' your boss says, ``A garden shovel is still a shovel, right?''

``Yeah...'' you say.

``And there are shovels far bigger than that with the same name....''

This argument goes on for hours, until you're fully willing to accept that a tea spoon is in fact a shovel just to get him to shut up. But before you can do this, a police car pulls up and a cop gets out.

``I heard someone was going to dig a hole here,'' says the officer.

``He was,'' says your employer pointing to you, and before you can open your mouth to object, he throws in ``With that teaspoon.''

``Whew!'' the cop whistles, ``Well its highly illegal to dig here, but after hearing about the teaspoon I think I better take you down town, maybe get you some electroshock to straighten you out. Ya got any needles, kid?''

Before you can anwer, you hear a muffled voice from the car. ``I want you to see my girlfriend,'' the cop says. A blond girl gets out of the car and stares at you, shaking her breasts. ``Ain't she fine?'' asks the cop.

She's kind of pretty but not really your type. So you say, ``Yeah, she's nice.''

The cop slams you against the car, ``Oh, she's nice now, you pervert! Why don't you go stick your dick in her, that's what you want huh?'' He slams your head against the car. ``Huh?''

Your boss says, ``Yeah, I wouldn't tolerate that from this psycho.''

The cop says, ``First, I'm going to have to rape you. That's not gay, since you're a sissy faggot. It'll be just like having sex with a woman. Then I'm going to have to hit you with this.'' He pulls out a yard shovel.

``Now that's a shovel,'' you say.

``NO SHIT!'' they both say.

After the cop rapes you and hits you over the head with a shovel, your boss meanders by and asks, ``So why aren't you done with that hole yet?''

[ 24 / 11 / 2004 ]:
Its been awhile since I posted a real entry. Its been a really dark week for me. Can you guess why? The usual...I don't have someone to love and adore so things seem very dark. I go back and forth in my head about this. On one hand, its so utterly stupid to be depressed for the lack of love. Might as well be depressed because you're not rich, or famous, or will never be the smartest person in the world. Its pointless to be depressed about it. On the other hand, I still remember when there was someone I could adore and someone that cared about me. It was so nice. I wonder what the point of everything is. But of course I know there is no point except for those we put on things. What is the point of the wind? I just have to keep reminding myself of such things. I should be glad I have a cat that I love and who absolutely adores me. While sometimes it seems such a small thing (and she is! :) ), she is a great comfort to me and I am blessed to have her.

I've met a lot of people recently, both in person and in cyberworld. But inevitably the same....not the right chemistry. If I liked them, they've rejected me. And otherwise...

I wrote a CL ad today that kinda sums up my feelings. I didn't write it to find love, just to put my thoughts out there. I'll put a link to it here, if you want to read: its here!. Note the keyword: ``foxes''. ;) You can guess that made me happy.

[ 27 / 11 / 2004 ]:
The Story of Molly

This is the story of a relationship with one of my ex's. I should get this down before I forget it, even though it happened almost a year ago. I'll call her Molly in this story, to preserve her anonymity, but that's not her real name. Several elements of our relationship were so bizarre I just have to get them down in virtual ink.

I met her through craigslist and we met for coffee. The first date was rather mundane, and I'm surprised she wanted to go on a second one. She was very pretty and probably smarter than me, but she certainly had her eccentricities (as we all do). By the second date I was already infatuated with with her. I thought I was in love -- though looking back on it I guess that wasn't the case. I debated whether I should tell her or not. Finally, I decided that I'd tell her, even though I thought she'd have want nothing to do with me afterwards -- at least it would be out in the open. On the next date, I told her "I love you." She said, "I think I love you too." I was really relieved, though even them the "I THINK" part made me a bit disconcerted.

So we had a few weeks of a somewhat normal relationship (if any relationship can be considered normal). At first she was really warm and affectionate, but as the weeks wore on she grew colder (later she said she didn't realize this -- I came to be aware that she kinda shields her own feelings from herself when its convenient). She preferred to go home on the weekends rather than spending her time with me, which struck me as odd. One weekend she went home and met this guy from her past -- not an ex...just some guy she knew. And she came back and told me about all these epiphanies she had. He was in a court dispute for pot charges (BTW, she thought me smoking pot was rediculously stupid) and she wanted to help him. In any case, it changed her life. She didn't want to go out with me anymore. I took it pretty hard inside, but I kept my cool. I told her about her coolness towards me of late ("I hadn't noticed") and said that I believed that she liked him and would go out with him. She said, "No, its nothing like that. He's not really boyfriend material." She asked if we could be friends, and I said sure, but that I didn't think I could handle it if she had another boyfriend anytime soon. She said, "I understand. Don't worry, the last thing I want right now is a boyfriend. It will probably be a long time, if ever." (I'm paraphrasing, but that was the general message).

Anyway, so much for being friends. We maybe saw each other twice after that as friends. The day afterwards, the subject of friends came up again, and I reiterated that I would like to be friends but didn't think I could handle it if she had a boyfriend anytime soon. She got kinda upset and said, "Well, I think you need to lose that attitude. I'm going to have a boyfriend one of these days and you're just going to have to get used to it." Hmmm? Isn't this a bit different from what you said 24 hours ago?

A week or two later she gave me a call. She was going out with the guy from her home town. I can't say I was surprised. She asked me if I still wanted to be friends and I said sure.

I didn't hear from her for awhile, nor did I call her -- I didn't want to intrude on her personal life. Then she called me one night, crying and complete distraught. She said her boyfriend was treating her horribly and made her wonder if she was going insane with all of his nitpicking on her and bossing her around. I wondered, why is she calling her ex to tell him this? She asked if she could come over, and I said yes. I had two friends over and I kicked them out -- I feel bad about this, but don't know what I would have done otherwise. Molly talked about how bad their relationship was and how he wouldn't do anything to get out of his slump, and tried to weasel out of things. And he abused his dog. She asked me for advice and I said, "It sounds to me like you've made up your mind to break up with him." She said yeah, but he'd try to weasel out of it. I told her not to let him.

Again, there was a lapse of a couple weeks and she called. She was still going out with him and that it was going well since that one black time. We didn't talk too long. She called again once, but didn't leave a message so I didn't call back. I thought maybe I saw her a few occasions since, but was never sure.

Perhaps the final chapter came a few days ago. I was at the Free Speech Movement cafe, where I do much of my work. I was outside and thought I saw her. Being shy, I just kinda looked the other way (BTW, to those that think this is rude, she did this twice before she even started seeing the "other guy". Yeah, I know that's the mentality of a five year old. Sometimes I'm remarkable immature.). She got up and walked away. She walked around on a path until she was directly in front of me, though there was a tree between us so I could barely see her. Then she walked another direction entirely. Was it her? Even of that, I'm not sure. But in either case it was strange.

So ends my recount. I'm probably forgetting half the important things. But that's how it happened.

[ 18 / 12 / 2004 ]:
So here's my latest Craigslist post. Not really looking for anything (nor did I any responses), but I was having this dialogue in my head (vaguely resembling the dialogue between Delenn and Jack the Ripper from Babylon 5) late at night, and had to share:

``So despite your repeated arguments that love is just a biological instinct designed to perpetuate the procreation of species, you still somehow believe that somewhere, out in this vast universe, is another human being that you have some sort of empathic bond? Some sort of magical connection?''

``Yes, but--''

``And do you think this mirror of yourself, this contrivance of your mind, would want you amidst all your flaws that you've admitted to having? Your arrogance? Your fear? Your anger? Your hatred?''

``But they would see beneath these flaws. They would appear as ripples on the sea to them, as theirs would to me.''

``It is easy to hide illusion in poetry. What reason do you have for believing this? Why would you suppose something against logic? You have admitted that we are all one conciousness -- now do you turn the clock back? Do you pretend that there is another person that could be special to you, and you to them? How do you separate drops in the ocean?''

``There is no reason, just faith. Faith in what could be...rememberence of what was, and hope for what should be.''

``Faith! The refuge of the mad to defend their insubstantial mental constructions from the reality of their imminent collapse. Did you really think that simply believing in your ideas could cause them to come to pass?''

``Yes--''

``Did you really think of all the illusions of individuality, of all these sparks of conciousness, that there was one being who alone would accept you, amidst all these imperfections?''

``Yes!''

``And did you really believe that just out of faith in this person...and your supposed love beyond death...that your bond would be so strong that the Universe would just deliver them to you just like that?''

``YES!''

``We have heard your cry. Now let us hear the echos of the cosmos. What does it say to your question? Where is the cry of your soul mate? Listen! ... Perfect silence!''